I don’t want to be seen as a quitter…I want my word to mean something…I want my commitments to mean something…I want the people around me to take me seriously when I make a commitment…There is a part of me that is afraid that if I do not follow through on my commitments then I’m going to be seen as a quitter…I’m going to be seen as a quitter by other people…I’m going to see myself as a quitter…I am afraid the moment I let myself out of a commitment I am setting a precedent for the future…In which I allow myself out of all future commitments…I recognize the fact that it is possible for me…To look clearly at the commitments I have made…To make the decision to let go of the commitments that no longer serve me…To let go of the commitments that are no longer helpful for me…To let go of the commitments that are no longer healthy for me…I’m able to do this because I recognize I now have new information about the commitment…I now have new information about myself…I recognize the fact that the commitment is no longer a good fit for me…Letting go of this commitment is not a failing…Letting go of this commitment does not mean that I’m a quitter…Instead I’m making a commitment to using my time, attention, and energy in a way that is so much more productive for me…By letting go of the commitments that no longer serve me…I am creating the space and capacity to make good healthy choices in this moment…Allowing me to commit to the things that serve me…Allowing me to commit to the things that are healthy for me…Allowing me to commit to myself in the best possible way…Letting go of commitments is not quitting…It’s choosing a new and better future.
My intention is to have a more generous spirit…Because when I have a more generous spirit…It helps me to be fully present throughout my day…It helps me to be truly connected to the people around me…It allows me to be the type of person I want to be in the world…There is a part of me that is worried…That if I am too generous…Then I will lose all of my boundaries…That if I’m too generous…People are going to take advantage of me…That if I am too generous…I’m going to lose myself in the service of others…Because I’m simply going to give it all away…My intention for today is to find opportunities to have a more generous spirit in a way that is healthy for me.
My intention is to find my way to more peace and calm…In the middle of a busy life and my very busy day…Because when I tune in and find peace and calm…I am much more aware of my full presence…I am not running on autopilot…I am more grounded in my body…I am worried that if I slow down…I’m not going to get enough done…I’m going to fall behind…I’m going to miss opportunities…I recognize the fact that when I am peaceful…I respond better and end up with what I truly want…My intention for today is to be open to finding my way to moments of peace and calm.
My intention is to be open to new opportunities…To find inspiration and ideas in unexpected places…Because I know that when I am on autopilot…I am missing new opportunities…I am missing out on grace…There is a part of me that is afraid that I will be distracted by new ideas…That I’m going to chase thousands of new ideas…And never actually get anything done…I appreciate the fact that my system is trying to keep me safe in this way…I appreciate the fact that it’s trying not to be distracted…But I know that there are answers all around…there are opportunities all around…That are not distractions…But instead will make my life better…My intention is to be open to opportunity and inspiration as it shows up today.
I recognize the fact that as I change. As I transform. As I heal. As I move forward. My transformation impacts the people around me because we are connected. We are interdependent. Just because my transformation impacts others it does not mean I need to stand still. That I need to stay static. Because the world isn’t static. The world is not staying the same. It only feels that way. I give myself permission to pursue transformation. To work towards healing. In an intentional and a deliberate way.
It is okay for me to make choices in the world that impact the people around me. Because the people around me are being impacted by me no matter what I do. They’re going to be times in which loved ones feel subconsciously that my transformation is pointing out and heightening the discomfort in their own life. When they see me having better. When they see me healing. When they see me transformed. They might be reminded of the things that they are not happy within their own life. This might cause them to push back on my transformation. To undermine my healing. Just because they recognize the pain in their life. This does not mean I am responsible for the pain in their life. This does not mean I have caused the pain in their life. This does not mean I have to stop my transformation. They are responsible for their emotional state and I give myself permission to keep healing. Regardless how they see themselves.
It is also possible for the people around me to be jealous of my transformation. Because they are not having the same type of healing. They might even be putting in effort. They might even be working really hard. Not make the progress that I am making. Because of this they are jealous of my progress. I recognize the fact my healing is not undermining their healing. My transformation is not undermining their transformation. It simply means that I am transforming and I am healing at a rate that is faster than them. They can choose to be jealous if they like. But they are responsible for that jealousy. I give myself permission to trust myself. To know this healing path is right regardless how it relates to someone else’s healing path. This process of healing that I am engaged in means and I am changing. Means that I am transforming.
When I transform one part of my life it often impacts many parts of my life. When I change it is possible for many of my relationships to change as well. There are people who aren’t going to be happy with our relationships changing. Because they want their life to be predictable. They want their life to be the same. They want things to move forward in a consistent way. I can appreciate their desire for predictability. But the world is actually changing all of the time. Relationships are evolving all of the time. I give myself permission to recognize the fact I am not responsible for others transformation. I am allowed to change. I give myself permission to know that when people are frustrated with my transformation regardless of the reason it is about them and how they see the world. It is not about me. It is not about my right to transform. It is not about how I’m moving through the world. It is about their interpretation. I give myself permission to keep healing. To keep transforming. To keep evolving. Regardless what the people around me think. My transformation is about me. My transformation is about my life. My transformation is about how I move forward. I give myself permission to trust myself in this transformation. To know my transformation and healing is not only good for me but it is good for everyone
I have desires…I have goals…There are things that I want to have to be better…There are parts of my life I would like to transform…There are things in my life that I would like to heal…But I have a lot of emotional baggage around desire…Part of me feels bad because I have desires…Part of me feels bad because I want more…My desire feels selfish…My desire feels greedy…Because even though my life isn’t perfect…I still have more than many…If I want more…It means that I am ungrateful…It means that I am unappreciative…It means I am being selfish…Because if I were truly thankful I would appreciate what I have and not want more…I give myself permission to know I can be grateful for what I have and still want to have more…I can appreciate where I am and want to make changes…Wanting more is not selfish…Wanting better is not greedy…It is possible for me to want more…It is possible for me to have more…Without robbing others of opportunity…Without robbing others of what they need…Improving my own life is not detrimental to others…Improving my own life gives me the opportunity to lift others up as well…Desiring more is safe…Wanting more is healthy…Lifting myself up can lift others up…Improving my status is not greedy…
Desire can also be painful…Because it points out what I don’t have…It points out what I have not achieved…There is a part of me that interprets this lack as a failing…There is a part of me that interprets the lack as a judgement…Lack says that I am unworthy…Lack says that I am not good enough…Lack says that I am failing…Because if I were good enough…I would have already achieved it…If I were worthy of success…I would have success…Seeing others with success tells me they are good enough and I am not…Tells me they are valuable and I am not…I give myself permission to know it is possible for me to evolve to being able to recognize the fact that not achieving is not a statement on my worth…That not having is not a statement on my value…It is simply a statement of where I am in this moment…It is simply a statement of the process that I am in…I give myself permission to embrace the fact that this is a process that is unfolding in a gentle natural way…That is allowing me to achieve…My current status is not a statement on who I am…My lack of achievement is not a statement on what I can be…Where I am is simply a statement of where I am…In this spot I am worthy…In this spot I am whole…I am capable of more…I can work towards more…I appreciate where I am in this moment…I give myself permission to continue to have desires…To use my desires as a motivation…As I continue to move forward…As I continue to evolve…In big and small ways.
I recognize the fact that I want to do it all…I want to take responsibility for myself…I want to take responsibility for my work…There is a part of me that feels as if I am failing if I ask someone else for help…There is a part of me that feels like I am being a burden if I ask someone else to assist me…It’s good that I want to take responsibility for myself…It is good that I’m thoughtful in the ways that I ask for help…It is good that I don’t want to be a burden to other people…But there are some truths that I need to accept…I need to accept the fact that I cannot do this on my own…I need to accept the fact that I do need help in this world…I need to accept the fact that they’re actually people who would love to help me…There are even people in my life who are offended because I don’t ask them for help…It is not a failing to ask for help…It is not a weakness to ask for help…It is not a failing to look to others for help…Because I am human…Help is something that I need…Because I’m human…I need to connect with others…I give myself permission to know that that is appropriate…I give myself permission to know that that is healthy…I give myself permission to know that this is how transformation will happen in the long term…I give myself permission to know I’m worthy of that help…I give myself permission to know I’m allowed to ask for that help…I give myself permission to know it is the right thing for me to do…To ask for help in big and small ways…I can’t do this on my own…That is perfectly OK…That is allowed…I give myself permission to be OK with that…This does not mean I expect others to do everything for me…This doesn’t mean I’m giving up responsibility in my own life…It only means I am willing to do the work…And I am willing to reach out to get the help I need.
I want better for those around me…I want better for those I love…I want them to make better choices…I want them to have access to better options…The truth of the matter is that at a certain point…There are no more options…There is nothing that we can do to create change…Because the situation is so grave…There’s a part of us that doesn’t want to admit that…There is a part of me that doesn’t believe I am helpless in this regard…It is a part of me that wishes I could tap a little longer and a little harder to create change…But what is happening is happening…There are times when we cannot change that…I feel like a failure when this happens…I feel like I’m giving up because I’m not trying something new…I feel like there must be some deficiency in me otherwise I would have solved this problem…Otherwise I would have found an answer…Otherwise I would have found a way around this…Sometimes there’s nothing I can do…And that breaks my heart…It breaks my heart to see a loved one suffer…It breaks my heart to see them in pain…It breaks my heart to not see them take the action that might make a difference…I give myself permission to be sad…I give myself permission to be heartbroken…These are the emotions of wanting better for my loved ones…I give myself permission to be angry…Because that is the emotion of trying to fight for better…I give myself permission to feel lost…Because sometimes I just don’t have the answers…Even though this is out of my control…I can still be present…I can still be loving…I can share this moment with them…And that is real…That is significant…That is meaningful…Even if there’s a part of me that doesn’t accept that to be true…Even if there’s a part of me that feels like I am failing…Even if there’s a part of me that wants me to do more…I give myself permission to be with them…In this moment…With whatever they are dealing with…Knowing that they must take action…That this is their moment too…I give myself permission to know that it is significant…I give myself permission to know that this is not giving up…I give myself permission to know this is not giving in…This is being in the moment for them…This is being in the moment with them…That is meaningful…That is real…That is what I can do…That is who I can be in this moment.
I recognize the fact that I am not perfect…I recognize the fact that I will make mistakes…Even though I can intellectually accept that fact…There is a part of me that does not want to accept that…There is a part of me that thinks I need to get it right…Especially when I have the skills…Especially when I know what to do…When I don’t use the skills that I have…There is a part of me that decides to beat myself up…There is a part of me that needs to let me know that I am wrong…There’s a part of me that wants to punish me for this mistake…I appreciate the fact that something in me wants to hold myself to a very high standard…I appreciate the fact that there is a part of me that wants me to make the best choices possible…I also recognize the fact that this part of me is over functioning…That this part works way too hard…That this part believes if it beats me up for making a mistake…I will then make good choices in the future…I know this isn’t the case…I know that harsh words and beating myself up are not helpful…I know chastising myself is not useful…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I give myself permission to be gentle with myself…I give myself permission to be kind to myself…There’s a part of me that finds this unacceptable…There is a part of me that believes I’m taking the easy way out…There is a part of me that thinks that when I am easy with myself…What I’m really doing is giving myself permission to make more mistakes…But when I’m easy with myself I can still take responsibility for my past choices…When I’m easy with myself I can still take responsibility for the consequences of my choices…When I’m easy with myself I am still deciding to learn the lessons of the past…Learning from my past is useful…Learning from my past is instructive…Beating myself up for bad choices is destructive…I give myself permission to be imperfect…I can be imperfect and still strive to do my best…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…Knowing that being easy with myself is not letting myself off easy…When I learn from my past without beating myself up…It is the fastest route to transformation…It is the fastest way to creating positive new habits.
Having a loved one die hurts…I am overcome with sadness…Because I’m never again going to get a chance again to spend time with this person I loved…I won’t get to ask them for advice…I won’t get to share a joke…I won’t get to cry alongside them…Those moments are gone…Because of that I hurt deeply…The hurt that I am feeling is just my system telling me that I miss someone who is really important…I want my system to know that I am completely aware of that fact…I am aware of the loss…I am aware of the disconnection…I give my system permission to feel that sadness…I’m not running away from this sadness…I’m not avoiding the sadness…It is simply my experience in this moment…But I also recognize the fact…Then I don’t have to stay in that loss…It’s not the only part of this experience…How lucky am I to have had this person in my life…I know my life is better because of their presents in it…I know my life is richer because of that experience…And I appreciate deeply the fact that I knew them…Even though I miss them…I recognize the fact that this feeling isn’t going to last forever…That this sadness isn’t going to last forever…That this pain isn’t going to last forever…Even though in this moment it feels like it will…In this moment I’m allowed to feel grief…I don’t have to fight it…I give myself permission to know it’s not my total experience…This experience is more than the grief…I’m allowed to appreciate and I’m allowed to celebrate period I’m allowed to honor this friendship…They will be missed…I will feel the sadness of their loss again because they are loved…I don’t have to feel sadness to honor the friendship…Feeling sadness is one of the ways to honor the friendship…I give myself permission to honor it in so many other ways…I am so lucky they were in my life…Remembering that is so much more important than the sadness of their loss…This sadness will pass…This grief will pass…But my connection to them will remain forever.
Right now I am frustrated by the fact that I am not moving forward…No matter what I try…I’m not making any progress at all…When I am stuck in this place…It’s difficult for me to focus…It’s difficult for me to take action….It is difficult for me to believe that it is possible to be better…Right now I am trying really hard…I’m doing everything I know how to do…I’m putting forth full effort…But it’s making no difference at all…It feels like a waste of time…It feels like I’m going backwards…It feels like no matter what I do, it is useless…Not only am I questioning what I’m doing right now…I’m questioning everything I did before…Was my past success a fluke?…Were my past efforts actually helpful?…I hate feeling stuck like this…I hate feeling like I can’t move forward…Even though all of this is true…I can recognize the fact that this is a process….Sometimes when we are in the middle of a process…It doesn’t go as smoothly as we would like…It doesn’t move forward as easily as we would like…I recognize the fact the effort that I am putting forth right now is adding to my success…Even if I can’t see the success in this moment..Even if I can’t feel that success with this effort…I’m not going to be stuck like this forever…The simple fact that I have invested some time to try and transform this issue…To keep moving forward…Is good…I give myself permission to do the work…To know the results are going to come…Even if they’re not coming right now…Even if they’re not coming as fast as I would like…The results are going to come…I trust myself…I trust the process…I trust my toolset…Knowing that when I put forth this effort…I’m eventually going to make progress…I am open to the possibility of that progress being quick…I am open to the possibility of that happening easily…I give myself permission to trust myself….I trust the process…To keep taking action…Knowing that this will ultimately lead me to my goal.
There is a part of me that wants to do this task successfully..But there is also a part of me feeling resistance…There’s a part of me avoiding taking action…It is doing this to keep me safe…It is doing this to avoid danger…On the surface I know how silly that sounds…Being creative is not dangerous…But this part of me is worried…It is worried that I will waste my time…It is worried that I won’t come up with good ideas…It is worried that others will judge my ideas…It is worried that whatever I come up with isn’t going to be good enough…This is going to be a giant waste of time and effort…I appreciate this worry…Because worry comes with the creative process…The creative process is uncertain…The creative process is full of unknowns…The creative process is full of bad ideas…The creative process is full of half ideas…I don’t want to waste my time with those…I know what it feels like to get this right…I know what it feels like to have this completed…But that feels so far away…That feels so impossible in this moment…I give myself permission to recognize the fact that creativity is a process…Ideas are not going to spring from my head fully formed…It will take a little time…It will take a little effort…For me to find my way to the ideas that work for me…No one has to see the ideas that I come up with first…Unless I decide to share them…It’s OK if they are half ideas…It’s OK if they are incomplete ideas…It’s even OK if they are bad ideas…Because no one is ever going to see them unless I decide to share them…So the process is safe…It doesn’t have to be perfect…Many of the ideas I come up with might be seeds of much better ideas…I might not have those much better ideas right away…But I know spending time with the process will lead to what I need…It is OK if it takes time…It is OK if it slowly unfolds…It is even OK for me to spend time on this problem right now and not come up with a useful answer…There will be times when the creative process will involve me working through the least useful ideas first…That’s OK…Because that is the process…I give myself permission to be easy with myself as I give myself the space to come up with ideas that are useful…I give myself permission to trust myself in this process…Knowing that good and useful ideas will come…If I give myself the space and time that I need…I will come up with ideas that are so good that they surprise even me.