I recognize the fact that some of the issues I am facing are related to issues that generations before me have faced…And because these issues have been around for so long…There’s a part of me that is identifying with this problem…There’s a part of my family that’s taken its identity in this problem…I am worried that if I take the time to truly heal this…I will disconnect myself from my family…And I’m going to say I’m better than my family…That I’m going to be leaving them and this identity behind…Because they are stuck in this and I no longer am…But I choose to recognize the fact that healing my wounds does not disconnect me from my family…Many who have come before me have worked hard to give me a chance at a better life…So I don’t have to stay in this place…Healing these issues is not disrespecting my family…Healing these issues is doing honor to my family…I’m acknowledging what they have done to put me in this position…To do this healing today…I recognize the fact that this healing isn’t only about me…It’s also about all those who came before me…I choose to take this opportunity to pass this healing back and share it over the generations…I recognize the fact that this is an opportunity for me to heal myself…I recognize this is an opportunity to share that healing with others…My healing is an opportunity to share with all those who came before me.
Pod #331: EFT For The Many Faces Of Grief
I don’t like feeling grief…I don’t like feeling sadness…Because those emotions are about being in contact with…And focusing on…And dwelling on something I am missing…I’m paying attention to something lost…I don’t like being reminded of loss…I hate seeing opportunities that I was hoping for have passed me by…I’m hurt by the time I have lost because I didn’t take action sooner…The sadness that I am feeling is simply pointing out that loss…It is simply pointing out what has been missed…And because of the nature of sadness…It is often lurking in the background…And because it is not the primary emotion that I feel…I miss it…In this moment I give the sadness permission to have full voice…In this moment I give the sadness permission to be heard…It is good to acknowledge what is lost…It is good to acknowledge what I’m no longer connected to…It is good to acknowledge the things that have been missed…But I don’t have to stay stuck in what is missing…I don’t have to stay stuck in that longing…I don’t have to stay stuck in the sadness…I give myself permission to hear the sadness and let it go…I give myself permission to experience the grief and release it…Even though things have been lost…Even though opportunities have been missed…Even though time has been wasted…I can move forward in a healthy way…I can remember what is lost without being stuck in this sadness…I can say that what is lost is still important and let go of the grief…I don’t have to stay in the grief in order to learn from the past…I don’t have to stay in the grief to say what is lost is important…The sadness has done its job…I can be in this moment and be fully present…Knowing what is important to me…And not be stuck in the sadness.
Pod #330: If everything is getting better, why do I feel worse?
I recognize the fact that I am in process…I recognize the fact that this is an evolution…As I do my work…I am getting better…I’m getting healthier..But because of the nature of healing…It is very easy for me to miss the progress that I am making…When I heal I stop noticing the issue that I just healed…My focus goes to what is unhealed…I don’t get the opportunity celebrate what I have just healed…Because my system has already moved on to the next issue requiring my focus and transformation…And because of this…I can actually feel worse…Because the types of emotions I am tuning into are different…These emotions cut more sharply…They are now emotions that cut deeper…They are no longer practical problems with obvious solutions…They are deep, emotional problems…And these types of problems weigh on me in a different way…I give myself permission to know that it is OK to feel like my issues are getting worse right now…But at the same time…I actually know that it is not getting worse…I am getting better… Even though my emotions are focusing on what is still wrong…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust the process…To know that even though it feels bad in this moment…My life really is improving…I am moving forward…And mistakenly believing that it is actually getting worse…Is a perfectly natural part of the process…I recognize that it is OK to feel this way…As I keep moving forward…As I keep healing…As I keep transforming my life.
Pod #329: EFT For Jealousy Of Other People’s Success
I recognize the fact that I am capable of jealousy…That sometimes I am consumed by the emotion of jealousy…When I see someone with what I want…There’s a part of me that thinks it is not fair…They get to have what they want…And I don’t…They are getting something that I feel I deserve…But do not have…The feeling of jealousy comes from a place of wanting more for myself…It comes from wanting better for myself…My jealousy has very little to do with the person I am jealous of…It has to do with how I see myself…About how I understand my own experience…About how I believe people notice or don’t notice me…I give myself permission to know…That even though jealousy is an emotion I don’t want to feel…It is just a part of me fighting for better in my own life…But it is showing up in a way that isn’t useful…It is showing up in a way that isn’t helpful…And it feels so uncomfortable…Because on top of the jealousy…I also feel embarrassed about feeling jealous…I see jealousy is a sign of weakness…I see jealousy is a sign of pettiness…I see jealousy as me not seeing who I truly am…And not seeing what I am truly worth…But as much as I hate feeling jealous…I choose to know that I don’t have to be embarrassed about feeling that way…The jealousy is just information about me…It is information about my experience…It is lets me know that I still need to work on my own self-esteem…It is information about my understanding of my own self-worth…And as much as I hate feeling jealous…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I thank my experience for pointing out the areas where I need to grow…I can release my embarrassment because I appreciate the information that is coming from the jealousy…I can release my jealousy because I now know what I need to work on…And as much as I hate feeling jealous…I can appreciate that a part of me wants better for myself…That a part of me wants fairness and justice for myself.
Pod #328: How And Why Your Past Experience Impairs Your Ability To Heal
I have picked up a belief about myself or the world that is not useful…It actually makes my life harder day to day…And as I acknowledge this is no longer useful…I’m not blaming myself for picking up this tool…I am not blaming myself for picking up this belief…When I picked up this belief…I thought it was something that I thought would truly serve me…I’m also not blaming the people who gave me this belief…They were doing the best that they could when they were teaching me…I also do not blame them because they might not have realized they were teaching me in that moment…They were doing the best they could and I was learning lessons from that…I give myself permission to let go of this belief…Because it is a tool that is no longer useful to me…I now recognize a more useful way to navigate the world…I now recognize more useful way to respond to my problems…At some point in the future…If need this belief again…I’m allowed to pick it up again…But if I choose to pick it back up…I will do so consciously because it is useful…It’s also possible that I will never pick up this belief again…I acknowledge that the beliefs about myself…And about the world…Are picked up with all good intention…But they are no longer useful now…When I picked them up in the past…I was doing the best that I could…Letting go of them now is the best that I can do right now…It is okay for me to let go of these experiences…It is safe for me to let go of these beliefs…What is most important is not my past…But instead what I choose to believe right now…I give myself permission to believe what is useful right now.
Pod #327: EFT for Believing In Yourself
Sometimes I feel like I’m alone…The people around me don’t understand the work that I’m doing…They do not understand the healing tools that I’m using…To transform and heal myself…Some of them are not interested in change at all…When I am surrounded by people who do not care…It’s easy to lose my motivation…Because I feel like I’m alone…I feel like no one understands me…I feel like I’m the only one who cares…But even if I’m in a situation where the people closest to me don’t care…I know that I am not alone…There are people all over the world working to heal and transform themselves…There are people all over the world trying to make the world a better place for themselves and for others…Thousands of others are tapping along to these exact same words…Thousands of people are looking for a similar type of transformation…Even if I don’t know them personally…We are on this journey together…The effort that they are putting in to make the world a better place is also impacting my world…My tapping and energy is impacting their lives as well…Even when I feel alone…I know that I’m not alone on this journey…I give myself permission to keep putting forth the effort…And I choose to keep trying…Knowing that there are others who want me to be successful…Even if I don’t know them personally…Each small amount of effort that I put in contributes to the greater good…I trust that my efforts are useful…And I know that I’m not alone in this work of transformation and healing.
Pod #326: EFT For When Others Judge Our Success (Productivity Series: 7 of 7)
Other people notice the action I am taking…Other people notice the success that I’m having…Because they notice what I am doing…They are judging and evaluating my progress…They are judging and evaluating my success…I don’t like being judged…There’s a part of me that just wants to belong and be like everyone else…There’s a part of me that’s uncomfortable and afraid of their judgment…And of the rational and irrational consequences of that judgment…Sometimes people judge me because they think my dreams and goals are foolish…Sometimes people judge me because they’re jealous of my success…Sometimes people judge me simply because I’m willing to follow my dreams…And sometimes people judge me because they think I am judging them…They are worried that my success makes me feel like I am better than they are…But none of these judgments is about me…They are not about my success…Even though that is how it feels…In reality these judgments are about the people who are judging me…They don’t feel good about where they are…They don’t appreciate the progress they are making in their own lives…Because I’m doing something they are not…They feel like my progress is about them…Because it might be pointing out the things they have not yet achieved yet…When I experience and feel this judgment…It makes me reluctant to take action…Because I don’t want to be judged in this way…I give myself permission to be comfortable with my success…Knowing that it doesn’t matter what others may think and feel about my success…Because my success is not me…My success is about my action…My success is about how I move forward…They’re allowed to think whatever they want…And if they want to waste time thinking about me…They’re allowed to do exactly that…But I choose to focus on my action…I choose to focus on how I’m going to move towards my goals…I’m going to let go of my concerns…Because this is about me…And my progress…And I need to put myself first.
Pod #325: EFT For Recognizing Your Success (Productivity Series: 6 of 7)
I recognize that my progress is incremental…I recognize my progress is not happening all at once…And because that is the case…It’s really easy for me to miss my own progress…It’s really easy for me to not recognize how I am moving forward…When I do not recognize my own progress…It’s so easy for me to feel discouraged…It’s easy for me to lose momentum…Because it doesn’t feel like I’m moving forward…Since it doesn’t feel like I’m moving forward…I don’t want to waste my time or energy on something unsuccessful…I give myself permission to recognize the new normal…As being something that is different than the old normal…I give myself permission to recognize that progress is happening…Even if it is only happening in small ways…It is happening…I am moving forward…And I am making progress…I can see that progress when I take a step back…And reminding myself of my progress will help me to keep moving forward…It will help me maintain my momentum…It’s a process…Sometimes I wish it wasn’t always a process…But I recognize that is how success happens…I give myself permission to trust the process…And to trust that my action are having an effect…I am open to the process…I’m open to being more aware of the progress I am making…I give myself permission to keep taking action…Even when it doesn’t feel like I’m moving forward…Because I am moving forward towards success.
Pod #324: EFT For Doing The Right Task First (Productivity Series: 5 of 7)
There is a part of me that is worried I’m going to do this in the wrong order…If I do this in the wrong order I’ll have to do it again…Because I’m worried about doing things in the wrong order…I’m not taking action at all…This is a way for me to say safe…This is a way for me to be healthy…Because I’m not wasting time and energy…And I also know that if I don’t take any action at all…I am certain to fail…Action is required for my success…I give myself permission to trust that I will do the tasks in approximately the right order…It doesn’t have to be perfect…It doesn’t have to be exactly right…It just needs to be close to right…Because most of the tasks do not have an exact right order…Most of the tasks do not require me to be perfect…I trust that I’m going to do this in a way that is useful…I also recognize the fact that the tasks that I need to do are important…But my success does not rely on any one task…Success comes when all these tasks add up…Doing a little work at a time…Adding up to something big…And because success will come from is the sum total of these tasks…Doing them is enough…Trusting that I am close enough to doing them in the right order will move me towards success…I know these efforts will add up…I know these steps will add up…Putting me in a position to be successful…I trust the order I am going to do these tasks…I trust the effort will add up into something good…I know that as I continue to take action my way will become clearer and clear…Taking action now is more important than trying to figure out the perfect action…I choose to trust myself.
Pod #323: EFT For Following Your Vision (Productivity Series: 4 of 7)
I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust my vision…There’s a part of me that’s so excited about my vision and moving forward…And there is a part of me that is also scared to death…It’s worried that putting my hope in something like this might only lead to heartbreak…Might only lead to disappointment…I give myself permission to trust my vision…Even though that vision might not be perfect…I give myself permission to know I am heading in the right direction…And by trusting this vision…I will move forward…I will be successful…I am can remain safe…I can trust my vision…Even though I know everything will not going to be perfect…I can trust my vision even though I’m worried everything won’t go exactly as planned…I know that others in my life don’t share my vision…Some even doubt my vision…And that can make it hard for me to take action and to trust myself…When I am going against the opinions of others…I can question myself…There have been times in my life where my vision did not match up with that of others…And that was OK…I was still successful…And it was the right path for me…I ended up where I needed to be…It would be great if others shared my vision…But that is not necessary for me to be successful…They don’t have to endorse my vision for me to be safe…I give myself permission to trust my inner guidance…Even when it conflicts with other people’s opinions…Even when it conflicts with the ideas of those around me…This isn’t their life…This is my life…And I allow myself to trust my inner guidance…Even in the face of others doubting me.