I know I have a rich emotional life…My emotions are useful…My emotions are one way in which my system communicates with me…And because of this…It is useful information…I also recognize the fact…That there is a part of me that thinks I am above emotional responses…That believes I have transformed so much…That I should no longer be overcome by these emotions…I should be able to deal with everything…In a calm and reasonable way…The fact that I am feeling these emotions feels like I have failed…Feels like I have made a mistake…Feels like I haven’t evolved as much as I think I have…But I give myself permission to know that I’m allowed to feel my emotions…I give myself permission to feel the whole spectrum of emotions…I give myself permission to know that emotions are healthy…I give myself permission to know my emotions are natural…I don’t want my emotions to be disproportionate…I don’t want to lash out at others with my emotions…But I am allowed to feel them…I am allowed to experience them…It is healthy for me to feel deep emotion…It is not a failing to feel emotion…It is not a shortcoming to feel emotion…Emotions are information…It is unhealthy for me to repress my emotions…I give myself permission to articulate my emotions in a clear honest and authentic way…I am healthier when I articulate my emotions…I am happier in the long term when I articulate my emotions…I give myself permission to feel…I give myself permission not to hold back…I give myself permission to grow through my emotional experience.
Pod #309: EFT for Carrying the Expectations of Others
I recognize that the people in my life want what’s best for me…They want me to be successful, happy and healthy…Based on their experience they have a clear definition of what happy is…Since it is their definition of happiness…In their minds it must be everyone’s definition of happiness…Therefore their expectation is for me to live up to that definition…I want to be happy too…But I recognize the fact that my definition of happiness and their definition of happiness are not the same…I can appreciate that they want what’s best for me…I can embrace their desire for me to be happy…I can do this in such a way where I don’t have to adopt their definition of happiness…I do not have to live up to their expectations…I don’t have to pick up their specific desires for my life…I can accept that they want what’s best for me…Without having to accept their definition of what is best for me.
I also recognize the fact that there are times where I assume others have expectations of me…I assume there is a specific definition about my life…These expectations impact me…But just because I believe expectations are there…Doesn’t actually mean these expectations exist…There are going to be times in which I fabricate those expectations inside my own head…I give myself permission to let go of received expectations…Knowing it is possible for me to live the life that I want…Without those expectations.
Sometimes there are really clear expectations others have for me…These expectations are stated in subtle and obvious ways…There are times in which there is nothing I can do to live up to their expectations…Even if I tried to live up to those expectations every moment of the day…There are people in my life who will never be satisfied…And since they’re never going to be satisfied…I might as well live the life that I want to live…It does me no good to be dissatisfied with my life…And to have them be dissatisfied with my choices…If they are going to be unhappy with unfulfilled expectations…I might as well live the life that I want…Because my choices will not impact their happiness…Therefore I need to make the choices that are best for me.
I give myself permission to know that the only thing that matters…Is how I perceive my life…Is how my choices resonate with me…About who I am creating myself to be…About whether or not I am satisfied with that…I know my choices impact others…I know there are people who have strong beliefs about how I should live…I know others have invested in me helping me create the life that I have…I have to take responsibility for my life…I have to take responsibility for myself…I give myself permission to know I’m allowed to live up to my expectations and not anyone else’s…And that will serve me in the short term and will serve me in the long term.
Pod #308: EFT to Celebrate Success
I’m glad I have this moment for celebration…I’m glad that I’ve been successful…I appreciate all of the effort that I put into this success…I appreciate all the time that I put into making this happen…I’m glad I’ve had this success…It is appropriate for me to celebrate the success…Even though I understand intellectually I should be celebrating my success…It is possible that I have subconscious beliefs…About how success is bad and how celebration is wrong…There might be a part of me that is afraid…That since I’ve had this level of success…I always have to achieve this level of success…That this new success has become the new standard…I appreciate the fact that standards change…I’m glad that I’m consistently striving for more…I appreciate the fact that just because I have achieved this now does not mean I have to achieve this forever…This is a moment in time that demonstrates what is possible…What is possible does not become the new standard…I give myself permission to continue to have success…Without creating unrealistic expectations for the future…I also recognize that my success means people will notice that I’m having success…There’s a part of me that doesn’t like that sort of attention…There’s a part of me that just wants to do the work…That wants to invest my time in what is important and move on to the next thing…I know this success is about me and what I’m getting from it…I’m not doing it for the attention…Any attention I receive does not impact that success…I give myself permission to focus on the success…I give myself permission to focus on what I have achieved and what I get for that achievement…Which gives me the opportunity to build more success in the future…There also might be a part of me that doesn’t feel worthy of this success…It believes others deserve this success more…It sees others who have worked hard and not had the same success…It might even believe that this success is some lucky fluke that has nothing to do with me…And since it has nothing to do with me…I shouldn’t have the success…I recognize the fact that I was made for success…I recognize the fact that I was built for success…I see how my success serves other people…I see how my success allows me to keep moving forward…I give myself permission to accept and enjoy my success…To use my success to build upon…To know that this is not a fluke…To know that my success does not mean I am stealing someone else’s opportunity…I give myself permission to allow success to happen again…To know that I’m worthy of this success…To know I’m worthy of celebrating the success.
Pod #307: EFT For Decisive Action (Even When You Feel Uncertain)
I recognize the fact that I don’t know the obvious path forward…I’m not exactly sure what the next step is…I know what I want in a big picture way…It seems so far away that it feels impossible…It seems so distant that it is almost unreal…Because of that I’m not taking any action…Because on a subconscious level I understand since I don’t know where I’m heading next…The action I take might be a waste of time…It might be a waste of energy…Because it might be in the wrong direction…It is true this action might not be the next best step…It is true this next action might not work out…I believe that if I start heading in the right direction…Even if it’s not exactly the right direction…I’m going to be moving forward in a way that is going to make the next action more obvious…It will make the next step more productive…Success is the accumulation of many small steps…There is no such thing as an overnight success…The small consistent actions heading towards true north will eventually lead me the right way…They might not lead me to exactly what I’m heading towards…But they will lead me to a place that is better…They’re going to lead me to a richer life…They are going to lead me towards fulfillment…I give myself permission to take that next step…Action creates more action…Momentum creates momentum…Me doing nothing is the fastest way to not achieving my goals…I would rather take an uncertain step…Than stay stuck here…Uncertain steps become confident steps…Confident steps become a path…A path becomes a journey…And a journey leads to fulfillment…It’s OK that I am scared…It’s OK that I’m overwhelmed…It’s OK that I don’t know what is next…Making progress comes from taking action…I trust myself in this process to move in the right direction.
Pod #303: EFT For When Others Think Ill Of You
I’m really frustrated by the fact that someone else thinks ill of me…They think things about me that simply aren’t true…And there is nothing I can do about it…Their mind is made up…They are unwilling to listen…They are unwilling to try to understand…I hate it when people think bad things about me…Especially when they’re not true…I hate that they are wasting time and energy thinking poorly of me…I hate the fact that they are in a situation where they don’t think of me well…Because I want to be liked…I want to be accepted…I want to be appreciated…I want to be seen for who I truly am…I wish I weren’t preoccupied with what someone else thinks…I wish I didn’t care…But there is a very human part of me that does care…There’s a very human part of me that craves acceptance…I give myself permission to let go of the desire to be accepted by others…I give myself permission to recognize my worth and value isn’t determined by others…I give myself permission to know I am not defined by what others think about me…Even though I hate being in this position…I give myself permission to recognize my own worth…I give myself permission to recognize my own value…I give myself permission to know I am more than what others think about me…I recognize the fact it is possible for me to let go of my desire to be loved by all…I give myself permission to know I am not responsible for what other people think and feel about me…Even though there is a part of me that wishes I could change their mind…All that I can do is make good choices in this moment…All that I can do is take responsibility for my choices…All that I can do is strive to be who I truly am… I give myself permission to do exactly that…In this moment and in each successive moment…If I do that I will find my way to being the best that I can be in this moment…That is what I want…That is what I’m going to continue to strive for.
Pod #302: EFT For Resistance to Intentions and Progress
It seems really silly that I wouldn’t be taking useful action…I’ve named the goal…But for some reason I’m just not taking action…I know how valuable the change would be…I can feel my system self-sabotaging…But I’m not exactly sure why…In this process I’m open to discovering the resistance…I’m open to releasing that resistance…So I can move forward in a healthy way…I might be worried that it’s not safe for me to change…At some point in the past change did not work out well…My system is trying to keep me safe…By avoiding the possible pain that might come with change…In this moment it is safe for me to transform…In this moment it is safe for me to change…In this moment I can move forward happily and healthily as I make this change…It is possible there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe I’m worthy of change…Other people are allowed to change…Other people are allowed to transform…But not me…For some reason it is not safe for me to move forward in this way…Because there’s a part of me that doesn’t feel worthy of transformation…There’s a part of me that doesn’t feel worthy of healing…I am worthy of healing…I am worthy of transformation…I’m worthy of moving forward in a way that is healthy for me…I was made for transformation…There’s a part of me that might be afraid…That if I attempt this transformation or make this transformation…That others are going to judge me…Others are going to judge my effort…Others are going to judge what I’m attempting…I recognize the fact that this transformation is about me…It’s not about others…It’s not about what other people think…It’s not about what other people believe…I’m allowed to transform regardless of what other people feel…It is possible that there is a part of me that is afraid…That this transformation won’t live up to what I hope it does…It’s only going to be a fraction of my needs…And when I get to the end I will be disappointed…It will feel like a giant waste of time…It will feel like a giant waste of energy…It will feel like a giant waste of effort…Because it didn’t live up to my desire…It is very possible that this won’t turn out how I had hoped…That this isn’t going to turn out how I planned…But even with that being the case…Regardless of the transformation that comes…It is worth my time and effort to try…The effort that I am putting forth…Is about being successful…It’s about being healthy…It’s not about meeting a specific goal…My goals and intentions are just guidance…Helping me to experience transformation…I give myself permission to pursue this transformation…Even though the outcome is uncertain…It will be worth the effort regardless of the specific outcome.
Pod #301: EFT for Feeling Stillness and Peace
I recognize the fact that I am not at peace…I have thoughts buzzing in my head…I have tension in my body…I have the distraction of all of the things I need to do…I appreciate the fact that I live in the modern world…And there is busyness…I also acknowledge the modern world is not my enemy…Busyness is not my enemy… But they do make it difficult for me to find peace…They do make it difficult for me to find calm…I give my system permission to release and let go of any tension held in my body…Knowing that whatever information is in that tension is information that I can understand in another way…When that tension melts away…I am fully grounded in my body…I can respond to what I need to respond to…In an easy and effective way…I give myself permission to be fully present in my body…To know that it is safe for me to be fully present in my body…I give myself permission to relax…I give myself permission to be in my body in this moment…I also acknowledge that my mind is buzzing…Filled with ideas and thoughts that are trying to get my attention…Part of me doesn’t want to let these go…Because if I let them go I will forget…I know that if something is important…It will come back…It will be fully present in my mind…In this moment I am allowed to be calm…I’m allowed to be still…I’m allowed to be mentally fully present in this moment…As I reach for this stillness…There is no other goal than being still in this moment…I’m not trying to achieve something at this time…Other than letting go…That will allow me to be at peace…That will allow me to be calm…That will allow me to relax and let go…I give myself permission to relax in this moment…And in doing so to be at peace.
Pod #300: EFT For Releasing Unuseful Commitments
I don’t want to be seen as a quitter…I want my word to mean something…I want my commitments to mean something…I want the people around me to take me seriously when I make a commitment…There is a part of me that is afraid that if I do not follow through on my commitments then I’m going to be seen as a quitter…I’m going to be seen as a quitter by other people…I’m going to see myself as a quitter…I am afraid the moment I let myself out of a commitment I am setting a precedent for the future…In which I allow myself out of all future commitments…I recognize the fact that it is possible for me…To look clearly at the commitments I have made…To make the decision to let go of the commitments that no longer serve me…To let go of the commitments that are no longer helpful for me…To let go of the commitments that are no longer healthy for me…I’m able to do this because I recognize I now have new information about the commitment…I now have new information about myself…I recognize the fact that the commitment is no longer a good fit for me…Letting go of this commitment is not a failing…Letting go of this commitment does not mean that I’m a quitter…Instead I’m making a commitment to using my time, attention, and energy in a way that is so much more productive for me…By letting go of the commitments that no longer serve me…I am creating the space and capacity to make good healthy choices in this moment…Allowing me to commit to the things that serve me…Allowing me to commit to the things that are healthy for me…Allowing me to commit to myself in the best possible way…Letting go of commitments is not quitting…It’s choosing a new and better future.
Pod #299: Setting Intentions In The New Year w/ EFT
My intention is to have a more generous spirit…Because when I have a more generous spirit…It helps me to be fully present throughout my day…It helps me to be truly connected to the people around me…It allows me to be the type of person I want to be in the world…There is a part of me that is worried…That if I am too generous…Then I will lose all of my boundaries…That if I’m too generous…People are going to take advantage of me…That if I am too generous…I’m going to lose myself in the service of others…Because I’m simply going to give it all away…My intention for today is to find opportunities to have a more generous spirit in a way that is healthy for me.
My intention is to find my way to more peace and calm…In the middle of a busy life and my very busy day…Because when I tune in and find peace and calm…I am much more aware of my full presence…I am not running on autopilot…I am more grounded in my body…I am worried that if I slow down…I’m not going to get enough done…I’m going to fall behind…I’m going to miss opportunities…I recognize the fact that when I am peaceful…I respond better and end up with what I truly want…My intention for today is to be open to finding my way to moments of peace and calm.
My intention is to be open to new opportunities…To find inspiration and ideas in unexpected places…Because I know that when I am on autopilot…I am missing new opportunities…I am missing out on grace…There is a part of me that is afraid that I will be distracted by new ideas…That I’m going to chase thousands of new ideas…And never actually get anything done…I appreciate the fact that my system is trying to keep me safe in this way…I appreciate the fact that it’s trying not to be distracted…But I know that there are answers all around…there are opportunities all around…That are not distractions…But instead will make my life better…My intention is to be open to opportunity and inspiration as it shows up today.
Pod #283: The 3 Reasons Why Our Loved Ones Don’t Want Us To Change
I recognize the fact that as I change. As I transform. As I heal. As I move forward. My transformation impacts the people around me because we are connected. We are interdependent. Just because my transformation impacts others it does not mean I need to stand still. That I need to stay static. Because the world isn’t static. The world is not staying the same. It only feels that way. I give myself permission to pursue transformation. To work towards healing. In an intentional and a deliberate way.
It is okay for me to make choices in the world that impact the people around me. Because the people around me are being impacted by me no matter what I do. They’re going to be times in which loved ones feel subconsciously that my transformation is pointing out and heightening the discomfort in their own life. When they see me having better. When they see me healing. When they see me transformed. They might be reminded of the things that they are not happy within their own life. This might cause them to push back on my transformation. To undermine my healing. Just because they recognize the pain in their life. This does not mean I am responsible for the pain in their life. This does not mean I have caused the pain in their life. This does not mean I have to stop my transformation. They are responsible for their emotional state and I give myself permission to keep healing. Regardless how they see themselves.
It is also possible for the people around me to be jealous of my transformation. Because they are not having the same type of healing. They might even be putting in effort. They might even be working really hard. Not make the progress that I am making. Because of this they are jealous of my progress. I recognize the fact my healing is not undermining their healing. My transformation is not undermining their transformation. It simply means that I am transforming and I am healing at a rate that is faster than them. They can choose to be jealous if they like. But they are responsible for that jealousy. I give myself permission to trust myself. To know this healing path is right regardless how it relates to someone else’s healing path. This process of healing that I am engaged in means and I am changing. Means that I am transforming.
When I transform one part of my life it often impacts many parts of my life. When I change it is possible for many of my relationships to change as well. There are people who aren’t going to be happy with our relationships changing. Because they want their life to be predictable. They want their life to be the same. They want things to move forward in a consistent way. I can appreciate their desire for predictability. But the world is actually changing all of the time. Relationships are evolving all of the time. I give myself permission to recognize the fact I am not responsible for others transformation. I am allowed to change. I give myself permission to know that when people are frustrated with my transformation regardless of the reason it is about them and how they see the world. It is not about me. It is not about my right to transform. It is not about how I’m moving through the world. It is about their interpretation. I give myself permission to keep healing. To keep transforming. To keep evolving. Regardless what the people around me think. My transformation is about me. My transformation is about my life. My transformation is about how I move forward. I give myself permission to trust myself in this transformation. To know my transformation and healing is not only good for me but it is good for everyone