There’s a part of me that doesn’t want to look foolish…There’s a part of me that always wants to look like I am competent…There is part of me that always wants to look knowledgeable…There is a part of me that wants to look like I’m trustworthy…I want other people depend on me…I want other people to believe in me…I want other people to think I’m capable…I want other people to be able to trust me…I am afraid that if I say I don’t know…Other people won’t trust me…Other people will look down on me…Other people won’t think I am capable of being helpful…And they may judge me…But the truth is that it is useful for me to say I don’t know…Then everybody knows where they stand…People know what they can expect of me…I know what I can expect of myself…By being honest in this way…I will create the greatest success…I will be able to move forward in the most natural way…And I will be able to get the help that I need…Getting help means I will be successful faster…Because I’m not dependent upon myself to figure it all out on my own…I give myself permission not to know everything…I give myself permission to admit to others when I don’t know…Being honest about what I don’t know serves me and serves everyone else.
Pod #342: Saying “No” To Holiday Invites With EFT (Pro-You Choices Part 1)
The holiday season is crazy…There are so many things going on…There are so many invitations that I have received..There’s a part of me that feels like I have to say yes to all of it…There’s a part of me that feels as if I’m letting other people down if I don’t go…There is a part of me that feels like I am missing out if I don’t say yes…I recognize the fact it is OK for me to say no…I recognize the fact it is OK for me to turn something down…If I say no…I’m not making a judgment about the thing I’m saying no to…I’m simply saying it’s not a good fit for me in the midst of all of this…The reality is that if I don’t go to something, most people won’t notice…The reality is most people won’t care…Some people will even be jealous at my courage in saying no…It is OK for me to say no…It is possible that some people might get bent out of shape if I say no…It is possible that some people will be frustrated if I say no…I am not responsible for their emotional state…I’m not responsible for how they feel about my choice…If they want to be bent out of shape because I said no to an invitation…They’re allowed to do that…That is their choice…I am not responsible for that…I give myself permission to take care of myself…I give myself permission to be thoughtful about what I say yes to…I give myself permission to look at the whole season and make good healthy decisions based on my needs…If I don’t put myself first, no one else is going to…If I don’t take care of myself, no one else is going to…I give myself permission to make healthy choices…Saying no to an invitation is a great way for me to take care of myself…I don’t have to feel guilty about saying no…I don’t have to explain why I’m saying no…I am simply taking care of myself…I am worthy of taking care of myself.
Pod #341: Tapping For When We Hurt Others
I recognize my actions have hurt someone else…I recognize the fact that my thoughtlessness has caused pain…Just because I didn’t intend to hurt the person doesn’t reduce their pain…Their pain is real…And it deserves to be recognized…I need to take responsibility for causing that pain…I hate being in a circumstance where I have hurt others…I hate it when I make choices that make life more difficult for others…I wish I hadn’t caused this pain…I commit to doing what I can to make it right…I know better than this…I know I shouldn’t have acted in that way…And I feel like a failure because of that fact…I know I have failed in this particular moment…Because I want to be better than this…I think of myself as a better person than this…I need to act better than this…I give myself permission to learn from this moment…To recognize the fact that I can and should make better choices…Even though I can’t change the past…I can ensure that I learn from the past and make better choices in the future…This mistake is a challenge for me to do better… This mistake is a challenge for me to be better…I give myself permission to do exactly that…Even though I can’t take this moment back…I give myself permission to be a new person in the way that I move forward…I challenge myself to act better in the future…And I commit to accepting that challenge.
Pod #338 – Using EFT To Give Thanks – Even when it is hard to give thanks
It’s not always easy to give thanks…Because I live in a world that is far from perfect…I encounter burden and struggle…Things don’t always go as planned…I experience pain in my life…And when I feel pain…When I don’t have what I want or need…It can be difficult for me to give thanks…It can be difficult for me to feel appreciation…But when I give thanks, I’m not denying the reality of my circumstance…When I give thanks, I’m not saying everything is perfect…Giving thanks does not mean I’m giving up on my efforts to improve my life…Giving thanks simply means I can look honestly at what is going on…There are things that I can be grateful for…There are things that I can appreciate…I give thanks for the good things in my life…I give thanks for the positive relationships in my life…I give thanks for this opportunity to take time today…And as I continue to move forward…I appreciate this day…I appreciate what is in front of me…I appreciate being able to move forward…I give myself permission to give thanks…I give myself permission to be fully in this moment…I give thanks.
Pod #334: What If You Don’t Believe Tapping Works?
There’s a part of me that doesn’t believe that tapping will work…It just seems too weird…There is no way that tapping on my body should improve my physical and emotional health…There is no way that something that looks so silly should work…Even if it has worked for other people…There is a part of me that doesn’t believe it will work for me…Even if I’ve had success in the past…There’s a part of me that doesn’t believe that success will be long-lasting…I appreciate the fact that I don’t want to do something silly…I appreciate the fact that I don’t want to waste time on this…I give myself permission to trust the process…I give myself permission to try…Even though there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe it will work…I recognize the fact that the worst thing that could happen is that I’m going to waste a few minutes and look a little silly…Even if tapping only works one out of 20 times…It is worth looking silly for a few moments…It’s OK for me not to believe in this…It’s OK for me to doubt…Nothing will go wrong if I try…And it won’t make my issue worse…The worst possible outcome is just wasting a few moments…I waste a few moments all the time on silly things…I might as well waste a few moments hoping I will be healthier…I appreciate the fact that tapping works even when I don’t believe in it…Tapping is a mechanical process that does not require my belief…I give myself permission to try…I give myself permission to know it is OK that I don’t know exactly how to do this…I give myself permission to step into this with a hopeful frame of mind…Even though I don’t know if it will work…Investing a few moments and trying to be healthier is definitely worth a try.
Pod #332: Sharing Generational Healing with EFT
I recognize the fact that some of the issues I am facing are related to issues that generations before me have faced…And because these issues have been around for so long…There’s a part of me that is identifying with this problem…There’s a part of my family that’s taken its identity in this problem…I am worried that if I take the time to truly heal this…I will disconnect myself from my family…And I’m going to say I’m better than my family…That I’m going to be leaving them and this identity behind…Because they are stuck in this and I no longer am…But I choose to recognize the fact that healing my wounds does not disconnect me from my family…Many who have come before me have worked hard to give me a chance at a better life…So I don’t have to stay in this place…Healing these issues is not disrespecting my family…Healing these issues is doing honor to my family…I’m acknowledging what they have done to put me in this position…To do this healing today…I recognize the fact that this healing isn’t only about me…It’s also about all those who came before me…I choose to take this opportunity to pass this healing back and share it over the generations…I recognize the fact that this is an opportunity for me to heal myself…I recognize this is an opportunity to share that healing with others…My healing is an opportunity to share with all those who came before me.
Pod #331: EFT For The Many Faces Of Grief
I don’t like feeling grief…I don’t like feeling sadness…Because those emotions are about being in contact with…And focusing on…And dwelling on something I am missing…I’m paying attention to something lost…I don’t like being reminded of loss…I hate seeing opportunities that I was hoping for have passed me by…I’m hurt by the time I have lost because I didn’t take action sooner…The sadness that I am feeling is simply pointing out that loss…It is simply pointing out what has been missed…And because of the nature of sadness…It is often lurking in the background…And because it is not the primary emotion that I feel…I miss it…In this moment I give the sadness permission to have full voice…In this moment I give the sadness permission to be heard…It is good to acknowledge what is lost…It is good to acknowledge what I’m no longer connected to…It is good to acknowledge the things that have been missed…But I don’t have to stay stuck in what is missing…I don’t have to stay stuck in that longing…I don’t have to stay stuck in the sadness…I give myself permission to hear the sadness and let it go…I give myself permission to experience the grief and release it…Even though things have been lost…Even though opportunities have been missed…Even though time has been wasted…I can move forward in a healthy way…I can remember what is lost without being stuck in this sadness…I can say that what is lost is still important and let go of the grief…I don’t have to stay in the grief in order to learn from the past…I don’t have to stay in the grief to say what is lost is important…The sadness has done its job…I can be in this moment and be fully present…Knowing what is important to me…And not be stuck in the sadness.
Pod #330: If everything is getting better, why do I feel worse?
I recognize the fact that I am in process…I recognize the fact that this is an evolution…As I do my work…I am getting better…I’m getting healthier..But because of the nature of healing…It is very easy for me to miss the progress that I am making…When I heal I stop noticing the issue that I just healed…My focus goes to what is unhealed…I don’t get the opportunity celebrate what I have just healed…Because my system has already moved on to the next issue requiring my focus and transformation…And because of this…I can actually feel worse…Because the types of emotions I am tuning into are different…These emotions cut more sharply…They are now emotions that cut deeper…They are no longer practical problems with obvious solutions…They are deep, emotional problems…And these types of problems weigh on me in a different way…I give myself permission to know that it is OK to feel like my issues are getting worse right now…But at the same time…I actually know that it is not getting worse…I am getting better… Even though my emotions are focusing on what is still wrong…I give myself permission to trust myself…I give myself permission to trust the process…To know that even though it feels bad in this moment…My life really is improving…I am moving forward…And mistakenly believing that it is actually getting worse…Is a perfectly natural part of the process…I recognize that it is OK to feel this way…As I keep moving forward…As I keep healing…As I keep transforming my life.
Pod #329: EFT For Jealousy Of Other People’s Success
I recognize the fact that I am capable of jealousy…That sometimes I am consumed by the emotion of jealousy…When I see someone with what I want…There’s a part of me that thinks it is not fair…They get to have what they want…And I don’t…They are getting something that I feel I deserve…But do not have…The feeling of jealousy comes from a place of wanting more for myself…It comes from wanting better for myself…My jealousy has very little to do with the person I am jealous of…It has to do with how I see myself…About how I understand my own experience…About how I believe people notice or don’t notice me…I give myself permission to know…That even though jealousy is an emotion I don’t want to feel…It is just a part of me fighting for better in my own life…But it is showing up in a way that isn’t useful…It is showing up in a way that isn’t helpful…And it feels so uncomfortable…Because on top of the jealousy…I also feel embarrassed about feeling jealous…I see jealousy is a sign of weakness…I see jealousy is a sign of pettiness…I see jealousy as me not seeing who I truly am…And not seeing what I am truly worth…But as much as I hate feeling jealous…I choose to know that I don’t have to be embarrassed about feeling that way…The jealousy is just information about me…It is information about my experience…It is lets me know that I still need to work on my own self-esteem…It is information about my understanding of my own self-worth…And as much as I hate feeling jealous…I give myself permission to be easy with myself…I thank my experience for pointing out the areas where I need to grow…I can release my embarrassment because I appreciate the information that is coming from the jealousy…I can release my jealousy because I now know what I need to work on…And as much as I hate feeling jealous…I can appreciate that a part of me wants better for myself…That a part of me wants fairness and justice for myself.
Pod #328: How And Why Your Past Experience Impairs Your Ability To Heal
I have picked up a belief about myself or the world that is not useful…It actually makes my life harder day to day…And as I acknowledge this is no longer useful…I’m not blaming myself for picking up this tool…I am not blaming myself for picking up this belief…When I picked up this belief…I thought it was something that I thought would truly serve me…I’m also not blaming the people who gave me this belief…They were doing the best that they could when they were teaching me…I also do not blame them because they might not have realized they were teaching me in that moment…They were doing the best they could and I was learning lessons from that…I give myself permission to let go of this belief…Because it is a tool that is no longer useful to me…I now recognize a more useful way to navigate the world…I now recognize more useful way to respond to my problems…At some point in the future…If need this belief again…I’m allowed to pick it up again…But if I choose to pick it back up…I will do so consciously because it is useful…It’s also possible that I will never pick up this belief again…I acknowledge that the beliefs about myself…And about the world…Are picked up with all good intention…But they are no longer useful now…When I picked them up in the past…I was doing the best that I could…Letting go of them now is the best that I can do right now…It is okay for me to let go of these experiences…It is safe for me to let go of these beliefs…What is most important is not my past…But instead what I choose to believe right now…I give myself permission to believe what is useful right now.